Years ago my dad said, “In every situation, you get to choose how to react. You often have the right or reason to react one way, but it may not be appropriate or most importantly, in your benefit.”
I have no idea how these wise words stuck with me because, at the time, I was a short-tempered middle school kid ready to punch some jerk in the face the next day in the school parking lot. Thankfully, I took his words to heart, and neither of us got punched.
I shared this quote with a group of men I have the honor of leading, and the consensus across the room was that if they had walked out my dad’s wisdom, many of them would have avoided making major negative life-altering choices. Their responses resonate with me while we continue to walk through the mystery of Cora’s health issues. I keep reminding myself that even though I’m angry and immensely frustrated that we don’t have the answers to make her better, I need to take a breath and not do anything stupid.
This past week, my wife has been doing some spring cleaning and rearranging the house, and I’ve noticed that a picture I bought her years ago keeps moving from room to room. It seems at every turn it catches my eye.
Little did Anna know these words were precisely what I needed to hear each day I ran into them. When I’m scared, I do things that have not been thought through, and when I’m dismayed, I do even dumber things yet. You’ve heard the adage that “desperate times call for desperate measures,” and I would say that times are never truly desperate when you have God’s promises to strengthen you to stand again. Heck, forget standing. Lately, I’ve been using His word just to keep my head above water.
Are you at the end of your rope?
Remember, “In every situation, you get to choose how to react,” and I’m choosing not to believe that these are desperate times that require desperate strategies. I’m reminded of my heavenly Father’s comforting words, “Be still and know that I am God.” I am choosing to pause and double down, watching closely for His plan to be seen, worked out, and glorified through all of this.
If you are in the throes of dismay, grief, or turbulence, let me know how I can be praying for you as well. We will get through this together!
In His service and at yours