If you’ve ever had a headache, you know how annoying they are. If you’ve ever had a migraine, you know how destroying they are. There was a two-year period when I would have upwards of three migraines a week. Regular headaches can make you miserable, but the dizziness and nausea from migraines often made me unfunctional. I was almost at the end of my rope.
I was desperately praying for a solution when someone from church recommended I visit one of our elders, a chiropractor. My prayers were answered through x-rays, research, and some physical and dietary adjustments. We’ve been able to get my migraines down to one a week. It’s not perfect, but it’s life-changing.
Two chiropractors in the office have worked with me, and Dr. Brian and Dr. Brad have genuinely given me my life back. The office is pristine, the staff is wonderful, and the results are immeasurable, but I don’t like going if I’m being honest. There’s something about going to the doctor that makes me feel weak. Being closer to 50 than 40, it seems that the body I’ve taken for granted for so long requires a bit more upkeep than I had planned.
Last week Dr. Brad and I laughed over how much maintenance my ankles take. After playing 30+years of soccer, my feet hurt all the time. I told Dr. Brad how grateful I was for his help, and then I apologized for having to see him so often. He said something that would stick with me for a long time. He said, “Hey man, I have a doctorate in this, and I can’t adjust myself. I need help to feel better too.”
Why is it over and over that I forget it’s OK to ask for and seek out help?
“Then the LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.'” Genesis 2:18
In this case, God created Eve for Adam, but I think it goes deeper than that. There is power in looking at a problem from multiple angles and having a second opinion. There is great value gained from a different perspective. It’s just difficult at times to admit that I may not have the best idea or that I may not be able to do something on my own. But check out what the Bible shows us over and over.
- Moses had Aaron, Eleazer & Reuben.
- Aaron had the whole tribe of Levites.
- David had Ahithophel the Gilonite and 28 other mighty men as helpers.
- Nehemiah had a ton of help building the wall, and he put the people in pairs to work safer and more efficiently.
- Paul, one of the superheroes of the Bible, called Timothy and Erastus, Priscilla and Aquila, “my helpers in Christ Jesus.”
- Jesus Himself entrusted His entire ministry to disciples/helpers.
The enemy’s trick in the modern era is convincing us that asking for help is a weakness. That isolation is better than exposure, and our pride, albeit false, is worth keeping at all costs.
Maybe we need a slight adjustment in the way we think about help.
Let me ask you this, is it hard for you to ask for help? Do you feel weak or like a failure if you ask for help? If you have asked for help with something, what have you gained through that experience beyond just accomplishing the task? What did you learn?
Please leave your answers in the comments. I would love to hear from you, and remember, we are all learning and growing. You’re not alone in this.
We will get through this together.
In His service and at yours.